||[Jul. 11th, 2008|05:59 am]
So, i think i may have had a life changing experience. I have never been to a strip club. And, let me stop you there. before you think i'm gonna go and rant about how much i love boobs, you're wrong. because let's face it. if you know me, you know i love boobs just as much as the next guy, but this story, it did something to me. |
I was hanging out with Caleb at Nate's as usual. and he said that his friend was the door girl at a local strip club. Neither one of us had ever been to "skin bar", if you will, before in our lives. so when the idea was proposed i was like "hell yeah". because like i said, i like boobs. so we drink a few more beers and go up there.
So we pull into the parking lot and walk through the doors to get our IDs checked by his friend, who lets us in for free, for the most part. let me tell you, from the moment you walk in, it's wall to wall titties. which normally, is awesome. we sat at the bar because we didn't really want to seem like we wanted to spend the money for a lap dance or anything. We grabbed a couple beers and just kinda took it all in for what it was. in all honestly, i had never felt more sleezy in my entire life. i looked at all the other guys around me who seemed to be numb to the whole experiencee and enjoyed them selfs. however, i couldn'g get over the overwhelming awkwardness that surrounded the whole situation.
It came to it's climax when one of the ladies had sat next to me at the bar on what seemed like her break to have a smoke. she told me she was about to preform on the main stage. so, to seem nice i continuted the conversation. she was an a very attractive young girl. i won't devulge her name just for priviacy sakes, which im sure probably wasn't her real name anyways. we talked about music, the music she liked to dance to, alcohol, work and other things. i commented on one of her percings, which looked great on her, which only led to the story of how her daughter always likes to pull on it which may be stretching it out.
that was kinda the final blow for me. she stood up to walk back stage and i wished her good luck. i finished my beer and ordered another as she was introduced to the stage. I drank my beer quickly as she did her act hardly removing my eyes from the stage. Here's where it gets tricky.
I didn't stare at her in the way all the other guys there did. I kind of watched as i thought to myself, "you have a child, who needs a rolemodel. this is how you pay the bills? you don't seem like a bad person at all, infact you're quite charming. why do you do this to yourself. the money really can't be that good to have shitty douchebags throw dollar bills at you when you shake your ass. you're telling me that feels rewarding? you deserve better. all of you girls deserve better."
i sat for an hour watching these girls take their clothes off for money from assholes who don't even see them as people. just more masturebate meterial when they get home. and it made me sad. it made me extremely sad. it also made me realize that this kind of behavior sets womens rights back at least 30 years.
there is no reason any girl should have to do that. it makes me ashamed to be a man after seeing that. let's face it. i'm a lonely guy. i would kill to fall in love. but that, that is just upsetting. maybe i'm looking at this in a completely wrong way. i mean yes, it is their choice to do what they do. but, i honestly can't see why they don't try to do something else. we could live without strip clubs.
the way i see it, we're perpetuating a sexual agenda that is fueled by greed and money. some dickhead sits down and thinks "shit let me find some girls that are hard up, make them take thier clothes off and make bank off it"
BOYS, we need to find a new way of being men. this shit isn't cutting it. after seeing what i saw, it's like we're killing love it's self with sex, when the two should have gone hand in hand with each other to begin with. when girls feel like they have to strip or fuck to make rent, it's only making it hard on them, becuase there are assholes out there who don't get it. they don't understand that this makes woman's sturggle harder. this is why there is so much sexual aggression twoards women, and not in the good way. by going to these clubs where only making the problems worse.
basiclly what im trying to say is that, i understand a lot more now. and i hate what society has done to these girls. i want to make it better for the next generation of girls and boys. this doesn't have to continue.
maybe i'm weird, or maybe i just don't get it. but thats the thought that i walked away with when i left the strip club. complete and utter sadness.
my spelling sucks
i typed up a huge response, but then just deleted it all. basically, i disagree with your entry. i mean, sure dudes are skeezy douchebags a lot of the time...but I fail to see how dancing around naked on a pole is any worse than working for Nike or some shit. It puts food on the table, it provides an outlet for men to relieve sexual frustration, and I'd like to also add that countries with super loose policies on the sex industry (legalized sex shows, strip shows, prostitution, etc.) have less incidences of rape. Obviously there's a lot wrong with the typical male perception of women, but I don't think that there's anything wrong with stripping or there being an industry for such a thing.
i see your point, but i disagree. it encourages the notion that women are just objects, when they're not. i think that was the biggest problem with it. yes it pays the bills, but so does flipping burgers.
second point, sexual agresion isn't nessacarly rape. it's any sort of unwanted harrasment.